Child Advocates Santa Wish List Program

Child Advocates Santa Wish List Program

A quick post on something that has been burdening me lately – gratitude. I mentioned that we are trying to work on gratitude in our house. Not just for the kids, but for the adults, too! I would give our family a C for hitting our “gratitude goals” leading up to Thanksgiving. Now, we enter a fun, but also sometimes tough, season – Christmas! The focus is always on what we want, especially for the kids.  While I think that is fine (children SHOULD enjoy the holiday season!) I’m hoping to elevate Christmas for my children a little this year.

Sidenote: I always thought we would be the family serving Thanksgiving to the homeless and doing all sorts of good deeds during the Christmas season. That hasn’t happened. Maybe the kids are too young. In the six years we’ve had children, we have donated a few items to Toys for Tots and brought some cans to a food drive. I’m not knocking those things. They are great! But I’m ready to do a little more to make these acts of generosity more personal for my kids.

My neighbor posted on FaceBook about the Child Advocates Santa Wish List Program. You can easily purchase items for children in Child Protective Services custody through Amazon or Target.  You can also host a toy drive or sponsor an individual child.  The drop off for the gifts for individuals are December 4 – 6 which is why I wanted to post this information sooner rather than later. This year, our family decided to sponsor an individual child. Her name is Zoey and she is 10 years old. We received her wish list via email and we plan to shop for her as a family on Friday evening. H & L have been pretending to be elves all week so I’m planning on telling them we are going to be Zoey’s elves. My hope is that we can bring some joy to Zoey’s holiday season. All children deserve that. I also hope that having a specific name and age will make an impact on my children and will spark conversation so they can begin to understand how privileged they are; not to feel guilty, but to feel a sense of responsibility that comes with privilege.

I’m not posting this for anyone to congratulate us on being “good” people (see above… a few toys and cans are all we have done so far!) I’m posting this to help keep me and my family accountable as we enter a season of “more, more, more.” What do you do during this season to keep gratitude in check?

I had to post a photo of my cute elves and I’ll  will post our shopping trip on my IG stories!

Stay Merry!


An Imperfect Pinkalicious Party

An Imperfect Pinkalicious Party

I’ve told several people this week I am not a crafty mom. I am an Amazon Prime mom, but for some reason for L’s 4th birthday I decided to move out of my wheelhouse and attempted to be crafty. I will say it was more fun than I was expecting because L was really excited. I did have to call on my craftiest friend, Brittany, several times for help! My biggest lesson… a glue gun is your best craft tool.

Don’t get me wrong… I love throwing parties and I think L does, too! She was full of ideas! L knows what she wants and declared in July that she was having a Pinkalicious themed birthday party… in November. It was a fairly easy party to plan because I just followed the book starting with…

The Outfit
Remember, I’m not crafty… and I definitely don’t sew which is why Two Bunnies Custom Sewing is my go to for Halloween Costumes. Emily is great and I knew she would do a wonderful job on a Pinkalicious dress! L loves it and I’m already planning on using it for future Book Character Days at school.



The Cupcakes
Sweet Stories made the perfectly Pinkalicious cupcakes! They look exactly like the cupcakes in the book! Tonia was so sweet to work with.



The Food
The party was in the afternoon so we kept the food light – pink popcorn, strawberries and raspberries, and pink jelly beans. We also had pink lemonade to drink! Of course, the cure for Pinkititis is green food so we also had cucumber and hummus, chips and guacamole, and green grapes.


The Favors
Instead of putting together favor bags, we ordered these paperback Pinkalicious books and included a label in the front thanking them for coming to the party.


When the kids arrived we had them decorate wands. This is where my glue gun came in! I bought pre-cut felt stars and dows. Glued some glitter ribbon on them and had stickers for the kids to decorate. We also had the kids play pin the cherry on the cupcake. This cupcake gave me fits, but once again… Brittany and the glue gun came to my rescue. It definitely wasn’t perfect, but when Lucy came home from school she gasped and said “OH! It’s perfect!” My primary audience was happy so I was, too!


Lucy loving my imperfect cupcake was a great reminder, too, because I think sometimes I do birthday parties (and similar activities) to somehow validate my own worth as a mother and I want it all to be perfect. If the party is perfect than I can be a perfect mom, right? Ha… if only that were true! I fail every day and I wish there was some magical glue gun for correcting parenting mistakes!

All in all, our girl had a great party and we are so thankful for all who came to celebrate with us!





Gratitude Before Gifts

Gratitude Before Gifts

It’s the most wonderful time of the year…

Be honest, have you started decorating for Christmas yet? I haven’t, but a few ideas about how I will decorate our new house this year are banging around in my head. I’m really excited for the holidays this year. We won’t be travelling much and I’m looking forward to all the holiday activities in and around Houston like Zoo Lights and the Nutcracker.

There is a part of me though that is reflecting on how we now jump from Halloween straight to Christmas. In the past I was OK moving right on in to the holiday season (I figured if I was going to put up all those holiday decorations I would enjoy them as long as I could!), but this year I feel hesitant to skip over Thanksgiving. I’ve noticed in the past few months that my kids are acting entitled. They want something, usually a toy or some candy, and they think should have it just because they want it. It doesn’t matter how many toys they already have at home or that they just pulled in a half ton of Halloween candy – they always want more. I get it… they are kids. But think about the entitled adults you know; they don’t have the childish charm to pull it off, do they? And isn’t it my job to teach my children how to be grateful for what they already have before they get inundated with more stuff at Christmas?

I’m constantly relearning the lesson that kids will do what you do regardless of what you say so if I want to teach my children gratitude, I need to look at myself. And yikes, y’all… that was a scary refection staring back at me. I want more. I want more clothes. I want more house décor. I want more vacations. I want more dinners out at nice restaurants. I want a nicer car. I want more money. Talk about entitled. My kids had nothing on me in that department. I need to be grateful for what I already have and when I think about it… I have a LOT for which to be grateful. So really, it’s just as important for me to spend the month of November giving thanksgiving. Here’s what we are going to do in our home to foster gratitude before the Christmas gifts come…

  1. Every night, either at the dinner table or before bed, we are going to tell each other something specific we were grateful for that day.
  2. We have a hand towel (from the Target spot!) where we write down what we are grateful for and it is in a place we can see it everyday.
  3. Everyday, I’m going to tell someone outside of my family that I’m grateful for them. This will be genuine, not just an item I need to check off.

How do you help your kids be grateful? How do you stay in a place of gratitude? I’d love to get more tip!

Have a wonderful Monday, friends! Find something to be grateful for!

How I’m Eating More Vegetables!

How I’m Eating More Vegetables!

I know the holidays are around the corner and now is not the time you are thinking about vegetables and eating right, but don’t you think if you start focusing on nutrition now maybe those 5-10 holiday pounds would be easier to keep off? One way to do that is to focus on eating more vegetables. Since I’m trying to cut out some things (mainly grains and dairy) from my diet for, I really need to up my vegetable intake. Luckily, I’ve found an easy way to eat tons of veggies and have an easy lunch: soup.

The last two weeks I made soup on Sunday and have been eating the leftovers for lunch during the week. I love that I don’t have to think about what I’m eating, spend a lot of time making something during the week for lunch, and it’s healthy! Below are my favorite soup recipes chock full of vegetables we should all be eating more of.

Black Bean Soup with Quinoa and Kale

Easy Lentil Chickpea Stew

Detox Chicken Noodle Soup (I left out the orzo)

These are some others I’m going to try soon!

Nutritarian Pho Noodle Soup

Dr Fuhrman’s Ultimate Vegetable Soup

Tailgate Chili with Black and Red Beans

Have a souper day!


My Menu: More Veggies!

My Menu: More Veggies!

My menu may look a little different this week. It’s not anything too crazy, but for a while I’ve thought grains may affect me adversely. I’m talking doubled over in pain at times. The best I have ever felt in my adult life was when I was doing a Whole 30. But, after the 30 days I never did the reintroduction phase properly. Anyway, the other day, after my initial appointment with a GI doctor, I thought… why do I keep eating grains if I think they affect me so much? I’m going to continue to work with my GI doctor and see if we can get some conclusive answers, but in the meantime, I’ll conduct a little experiment of my own. So, that’s why my menu looks a little different this week. And why I’m eating Brussels sprouts, sweet potato and avocado for breakfast! I’m cutting out grains, eating less meat and trying to eat more veggies. Unless it’s a special occasion, like L’s birthday, and then I’m having a cupcake!  Also, has anyone ever done the Everly Well Food Sensitivity Test? I’m really interested in doing it!

Sunday: Black Bean Soup with Kale and Quinoa
My friend posted this soup and it looked delish! You should follow her on Instagram – @wholefoodie_tx. We will see how well the kids eat this! I always keep a box of Annie’s Mac and Cheese in the pantry so I might make it so they can have both!

Monday: Loaded Baked Sweet Potatoes
I love this because I can set it up like a baked potato bar (remember those were all the rage at early 2000s weddings?) and everyone can choose what goes on their sweet potato.

Tuesday: Baked Ziti with Spinach and Salad
So, I don’t really want to eat dairy, but I know the kids will eat this. I plan to get gluten free pasta.

Wednesday: Turkey Burgers (no bun for me) with Carrot Fries
The one vegetable both my kids will eat without a fight are carrots. I figured carrot fries might be more fun to go with turkey burgers than just plain ol’ carrots!

Thursday: Grilled Salmon with Avocado Bruschetta and Salad
My kids don’t really eat salad. L will eat cucumbers and I’ll probably throw some baby carrots on H’s plate. They will probably have some fruit, too – strawberries or grapes. Why is it so hard to get kids to eat vegetables? It’s pretty easy to get them to eat dougnuts!


J is gone for part of the week next week and then on Friday, my friend Erica from Mandeville is visiting me for the weekend! I’m so excited! We are going out to eat, just the two of us, on Friday. Any restaurant suggestions?

Have a wonderful Saturday! L and I are meeting up with my mom for some Holiday Card Shopping today! I’m hoping to knock out a good portion of my Christmas shopping.

xoxo –



It’s That Time of Year… Holiday Card Shopping!

It’s That Time of Year… Holiday Card Shopping!

It’s beginning to look a lot like…

I know, I know. It’s only mid-October. Purists are going to stop reading because I’m talking about Christmas too early, but hear me out! The last several years my husband’s family has done a Thanksmas… where we celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas at the same time. We did this mainly because we all lived in different states, but I started to really enjoy it because it forced me to get my Christmas shopping done early. This meant  I had a little breathing room in December to actually enjoy the holiday season. Or, you know, just be crazy with all the school parties, work parties and other activities without having to worry about getting all my shopping done.

This year, since I’m back in the Houston area, I am taking advantage of the Houston Holiday Shopping Card. The card, which you purchase for $75, benefits the American Cancer Society and gets you 20% off at various retailers for 11 days around town. You save money and you can help raise money for cancer research. A win win.

There are so many stores that participate that you should look them up, but I wanted to highlight a few that I’ll be stopping by over the next week and a half to make some gift purchases.

a bientot
I adore this place. The first time I walked in I was 2 days away from giving birth to H and couldn’t buy any clothes, but I did purchase a gold coin necklace I wear to this day. They have great gifts (I got my O key ring there) and even a little area for baby gifts.

I always find fun things to buy people here. Whether it’s a coffee mug, book, candle or clothes.

AG Jeans
OK, this is just for me. I love AG jeans and they aren’t cheap so if I can get 20% off of them I am!

I think Berings is like a high end Target. I always find myself wandering around there finding things to buy I didn’t know I needed! J came back recently going on and on about their new men’s store, so I’m going to have to go check it out!

This is for the guys in your life! I always buy J a little something outside his comfort zone to wear. Not too far or he just won’t wear it, but I’m sure I can find something here that will look great.

The Container Store
Y’all know about their fabulous selection of holiday wrapping paper, right? It is THE BEST! Plus, they have cute, quirky and useful stocking stuffers!

I need mums for my front porch! And maybe a few more pumpkins!

If you have a baby or mom to be on your gift list go check out Doodles in Rice Village. So many things for H’s nursery came from here.

Emerson Sloan
I have been wanting to check out this party goods store for a while and now I have the perfect opportunity since L’s birthday is just around the corner and I have the Holiday card to save 20%!

Hamilton Shirts
Another one for the guys! I’d love to get J a custom fitted shirt!

Itsy Bitsy Boutique
I usually buy my kids’ Christmas clothes in October so I’m taking advantage and saving a little money while I do. Also, L needs shoes in a bad way so going to scoop some up while I’m there, too. Did you see in my IG stories what we purchased yesterday! She is going to be so cute!

Kuhl – Linscomb
What can you not get a Kuhl Linscomb?! I already purchased some stocking stuffers for the kids, but I plan to go back when I can look around sans kids.

Lucchese Boots
Ok, this is just for me, too. I’m not really planning on buying a pair, but I want to go look! And if you need boots for rodeo season, why not get them now and save 20%?

My friends in Sugar Land keep rave to me about this gift shop, but I haven’t stopped by yet. They also have locations in Cypress and Bellaire.

We can’t forget about our furry friends! Our little dog, Maisie, is going to get her own personalized collar for Christmas!

Saint Lo
I’ve been wanting to check this Heights boutique out! Have you been yet?

Sur La Table
For the foodie or chef on your list!

Toys to Love I love this Toy Store! I’m getting some of L’s birthday presents here.

Tres Chic
This mother/daughter owned boutique was one of my favorite places to stop by when I lived in Houston years ago. I haven’t been back yet, but I plan to with my holiday card!

Here are some Sugar Land specific stores that are participating this year: Coach, Enchanted Forest, Escalante’s, Kendra Scott, Luggage & Leather, Magpies, Pottery Barn, Relax the Back, Sheri’s at Riverstone, Soft Surroundings, Sur la Table, Twenty Two Fifty Interiors and Gifts, Williams Sonoma.

Happy Shopping! Tomorrow… a menu plan for the week that is going to look a little different!





October: Infant and Pregnancy Loss Month

October: Infant and Pregnancy Loss Month

It’s strange how pregnancy loss will follow you in unexpected places. Every time I go to a new doctor and fill out paperwork there are the blanks: How many pregnancies? I write 7. How many children? I write 2.

October is Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness month and today is National Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Day.  I see this month come and go every year and think “I should say something,” but the something never comes. I think it sounds cliche. It sounds like a lot of other stories you have heard regarding pregnancy loss. But, I’m learning it’s helpful to hear other’s stories so you don’t feel quite alone if you are in the midst of pain. My story is a little different, because I’m one of the 1-2% of the female population who has experienced recurrent pregnancy loss.  This is defined as having 2 or more consecutive miscarriages before 20 weeks. Of these women, close to 75% will find no cause for the pregnancy loss. There may be some guesses, but no definite answers. For me, not having an solid answer was tough. I wanted a problem for which a specific solution could be found and administered.

The last semester Jordan was in business school I was so excited. We were talking about buying a house. We were talking about having a baby. All my dreams were going to come true. I had patiently waited while he finished his MBA (ok, maybe sometimes not so patiently) and now I was going to be rewarded. How selfish was I? And how wrong I was.

In January of 2011 I remember telling Jordan one Sunday morning I didn’t feel right and I was going to stay home from church that day. He left and I went and bought a pregnancy test from the drug store down the street. By the way, does anyone else make sure the store clerk notices your wedding ring when buying pregnancy tests? Or is that just me? Anyway, back at our apartment I sat there is amazement as I saw two pink lines show up on the test. I was excited. Nervous. I couldn’t believe this was real. When Jordan got home I showed him the test and we kind of just stared at each other. We went to Target and bought a onesie because that’s what we needed to have in our tiny apartment for 9 months, but hey – we were excited! A week later, I was sitting in my bathroom bleeding and crying. I thought the miscarriage was my fault because I caved and drank half of a Diet Coke the day before. This was an early loss, but it was significant to me because it was the only pregnancy I saw a positive test and had a sense of wonder. After that pregnancy, when I saw a positive test all I felt was fear.

The doctor assured me this was normal. I believed her and in March of 2011 I was pregnant again. I was cautious. There was no rushing out to buy onesies. We waited a while longer to tell our parents. We saw the heartbeat. I started to let myself dream about whether the baby was a boy or a girl. I started thinking about names. At this time we were looking at homes and I felt like it (whatever “it” was… my life?) was all coming together. At our 10 week appointment the ultrasound technician was oddly silent. I knew. I can’t remember the exact sequence of events, but basically she told me there was no heartbeat. They moved me into another room and started listing all the tests I would take. We scheduled a D&C. I started texting friends and family. I remember I had to cancel a Junior League appointment that evening. It’s strange the details you remember and the details you don’t.

The next few months were so incredibly difficult for me.  I didn’t want to see people. I didn’t want to do anything, but we were busy with end of year activities at Rice so I put on a brave face and went.  I had to undergo genetic testing. Jordan had to undergo genetic testing. I had blood test after blood test and we weren’t getting any answers. I was frustrated and angry. We had talked about announcing the pregnancy at Jordan’s graduation party. The day of the party I tried my very best to be excited for my husband and all his accomplishments (and I was!), but there were several moments I had to will myself to not cry.  I walked in to church on Mother’s Day 2011 already feeling so broken, but when I realized it was Baby Dedication Day I thought God was being cruel. I sat there while the rest of the congregation sang “you are all together wonderful to me” and refused to sing those words. I could not see through my pain. I couldn’t believe the things people would say to me. I couldn’t believe the people who didn’t say anything at all.  During this time period, when friends didn’t respond to my pain, I cut them off. I would think, why can’t they see I am drowning in despair? Where are they? Relationships were irreparable harmed. Looking back, it was the hardest time of my life personally. I don’t think at the time I realized I was in such a bad place.

The best guess the doctors came up with was that I have a MTHFR genetic mutation which causes a blood clotting issue. They told me to take a ton of folic acid and a baby aspirin every day. That seemed easy and, sure enough, I had a successful pregnancy with H who was born in April 2012. I thought I was in the clear. Two miscarriages following H, it became obvious I wasn’t. With each pregnancy we would add something else to my protocol. I miscarried when Hudson was 7 months old and that is when the doctor decided the baby aspirin wasn’t working. The following pregnancy, in the fall of 2013, I started giving myself daily Lovenox (blood thinner) shots. My next pregnancy was the pregnancy with L and I was on bed rest for 6 weeks and continued with the daily Lovenox shots. It was a hard pregnancy, but in November 2014 our red-headed fire cracker came into our lives on her own terms. Once again, I thought we had the “system” figured out until I miscarried again in July 2016. That was the end of the road. I told J that I couldn’t do it anymore. We were going to a be a family of four and, for that, we should be eternally grateful. And we are.

There are so many places to go from here. What not to say to someone who has miscarried. How to respond to people who say oddball things to you. How to respond to people who don’t talk to you about it all. What it does to your faith. What it does to your marriage. The guilt you feel. The gratitude you feel for those who walked this path with you and provided encouragement. The letting go of the family you thought you were going to have. I could write 20 blog posts on this. That’s the thing about recurrent pregnancy loss – it affects every part of your daily life and like I said at the beginning it pops up in unexpected places. It pops up in the doctor’s office. It pops up when a stranger innocently asks… you sure you don’t want one more? It follows me and it will forever. Recurrent pregnancy loss is now part of my story.

I have an urge to wrap this post up with a pretty bow and say something like “but I have the family I was supposed to have” or “Things work out the way they should” because people, me included, like closure. And, because I’m on the other side of this, I do have closure and I don’t think those statements are untrue. But, at the same time, I don’t think those platitudes would actually be helpful to someone in the midst of pregnancy loss. Instead to those who have or are currently experiencing pregnancy loss and reading this I’ll say – its hard. It’s really really hard. Acknowledge to yourself that it is difficult and do your best to take care yourself. And remember, you are so much stronger than you think you are because you are living through it.


Finally a Fall Menu!

Finally a Fall Menu!

It’s Fall! Well, it has been for a few weeks, but this week it is actually going to feel like fall! And you know what that means… chili! It’s on my menu this week for sure! And the photo above is a dessert I’m making tonight. It’s Ina Garten’s Tres Leches. I’ll keep you posted on how it turns out!

Next week is a fairly normal week for us, so dinner will be at home every night, which we actually like! J and H are heading out on their first scouting camp out so I think L and I will find somewhere fun to go to dinner on Friday night – just us girls! Does anyone have any suggestions for a fun restaurant in the Sugar Land area?

Ok, here it is – our menu for next week!

Sunday: Breakfast for Dinner. Not going to lie… I’m sort of phoning this one in. I love doing pretty much nothing on Sundays.  We have some Kerbey Lane pancake mix in our pantry so I’m going to throw those pancakes together and scramble some eggs and call it done. Isn’t it funny how kids just love breakfast for dinner?!

Monday: Quinoa Enchilada Bake. This is easy to prep ahead of time and then pop in the oven when it’s time to eat. Monday’s are our busy day, so this is perfect for us.

Tuesday: Paleo Jalapeno Popper Chicken Chili. The forecast calls for rain and cooler weather so my appetite is calling for chili. This is my favorite chicken chili recipe because you just dump it and go. And it’s delicious.

Wednesday: Slow Cooker Turkey Meatloaf. This was requested by J. It’s one of his favorite meals.

Thursday: Sheet Pan Chicken with Sweet Potatoes, Apples and Brussels Sprouts. If you can’t tell I love sheet pan meals. And roasted brussels sprouts!

This is our last lazy weekend for a while so tonight we are grilling fajitas and enjoying our back porch with friends!

Have a great Saturday! And Hook ‘Em!



Kindness in Politics? I think it’s possible.

Kindness in Politics? I think it’s possible.

It’s October! I love October. It’s the start of such a fun time of the year for me. Not only do we have Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up, but my dad’s, brother’s, daughter’s and mom’s birthday are during this time of year! Basically I am about to start a three-month long celebration.

It’s also heating up politically. The mid-term elections are around the corner. (Side note – are you registered to vote? If not, do it TODAY. No, really like TODAY! Here is a site you can find more information about your voter registration status).  I am, by nature, a non-confrontational person which makes politics a little hard for me to navigate. The only thing I don’t find hard to navigate is what to wear to the polls. I always wear red, white and blue. You should be patriotic on a day you get to have a say in your leaders!

For the first time since 2002 I put a political sticker on my car. This was a really big deal for me. I think this is an important election and I’m fired up about several issues. I mean, really fired up, but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t worried about what people would think about me when they saw the sticker on the back of my Pilot. I’m in a relatively new place, dropping my kids off at new schools, and we are continuing to try churches in the area. I kept thinking “What assumptions on these people going to make about me because of the sticker on my car? How dare they make assumptions about me! They don’t know me!” But then, I turned the question on myself. What assumptions am I making because someone has the opponent’s sticker on their car? And believe me, I was making a LOT of assumptions. Not nice ones either. Turns out I still need to remind myself of the golden rule “treat others as you would like to be treated.” Or maybe for this blog post it should be “don’t make assumptions about people you don’t want them making about you.” It’s a really great way to live life, isn’t it?

All of this to say, let’s be careful about making negative assumptions about the person that is sporting a Cruz sticker or a Beto sticker. It would be such an easier world if all circumstances were black and white, but sometimes they just aren’t. Politics is complicated. Everyone comes to the table with a different background, story, and belief structure than you do. Instead of automatically assuming they are bad, wrong, or immoral, maybe we should LISTEN to one another. Give each other space and grace to talk about these things without our assumptions clouding what they are saying knowing there are some issues on which we will not agree.  Also, remember that our kids are watching us. Yes, this may be politics, but they are taking their ques on how to treat people and how to talk about people from us all the time. Just be kind to one another. Even that person with a Cruz sticker on their car. Oh yeah, or Beto.

p.s. I’m making an assumption about how many friends and family get upset with me over this post. Ha! Kindness, y’all. Kindness.


Sleepless in Sugar Land

I used to pride myself on how well my kids slept, you know, like I actually had something to do with it. H slept through the night at a ridiculously early age. L was a little more difficult, but eventually she got it. Back in the good ol’ rested days, they would be in bed by 7 and then J and I would have our entire evening to watch tv, talk – whatever we wanted.

But now? Now my kids aren’t sleeping. They are 6 and almost 4 and I am up more now in the middle of the night than when they were babies. On Sunday night, L was up for two hours. TWO HOURS. Last night, H was up twice. L was up twice. The dog had a dream where she whined and my husband was snoring. I am tired. Straight up exhausted. Which means I am cranky and have less patience with everyone.  The kids are exhausted, too, which means they are cranky and acting a little bratty. Cranky, bratty, and no patience is a terrible combination. We all need sleep.

Let me go through the list of what we have tried. We have tried letting them sleep together in H’s room on his bunk beds. We have tried rewarding with sticker charts. We have tried punishment in taking toys away. We have tried not engaging them at all and putting them back to bed. This works with H. L is a different story. We are still figuring out what motivates her. We have tried no nap with her. We have tried ensuring she gets a nap. And sometimes, when I get those moments in the car where they want to talk, I simply ask… why won’t you stay in bed? Why do you think you have trouble staying asleep? We have had conversations about how they need sleep to grow, Mom needs sleep to stay sane, and Dad needs sleep so he doesn’t crash on his long commute, but none of that seems to matter at 3 am when I hear the door to my bedroom creak open.

My biggest fantasy right now is checking in to a hotel room and sleeping. I know this is not unusual for moms. My fantasy used to involve a plush hotel with really luxurious sheets. Now, I’d take a Holiday Inn. And not necessarily a newly renovated one. I just want to sleep. And my kids need sleep. Do you have ANY suggestions beyond what we have already done? At this point, I will try just about anything because I miss being a productive, patient, and positive mom who wrote blog posts.

Seriously Sleepy,